Whether you’ve lived with chronic illness for 6 months or 6 years you’ve gotten unsolicited advice; from family, friends, and probably a few strangers. I have lived with chronic illness for 40+ years. As a former people pleaser, I’ve heard it all and I tried most of it. Take my advice, save yourself time and money. You will figure out the perfect thing to say when people ask “Have you tried…”.
From cancer to colitis, we share the same label of “chronic illness” yet our symptoms vary widely. Even within the same disease, two people can have very different symptoms and outcomes. There is no one size fits all or magic pill for every disease, some medications might work for you, may make someone else have deadly side effects.
Advice is a tricky thing. Some of us get desperate with chronic illness and try different modalities and techniques to see if they make any difference in how we feel. Finding the right balance of when to take advice and when to say “no, thank you” is very personal.
It’s important to listen to your gut, living with chronic illness can give you a deep connection to how you are really feeling. Have you ever had a doctor dismiss your symptoms when you knew something was wrong, only to later find out you were right? That was your intuition trying to get your attention because deep down we know what is best for our own bodies.
From crystal healing to steroids I have tried many different ways to heal myself and you will find what’s best for you. Do your research, weigh the pros and cons of each choice. Don’t let anyone push you into trying something that doesn’t feel right, take the time you need to make decisions that are best for you.
Sometimes now when strangers want to discuss my health, I simply say “I’ll tell you my medical history, if you tell me yours” it usually works. It’s not original to me, I read it somewhere, the wisdom of another person living with chronic illness.